I am looking for a lover and secret friend. I am an educated male, clean, discreet with a great sense of humor. I've lived in Europe for a number of years, traveled to the Far East extensively. I am married - up front about that. I have zero intentions of getting a divorce. My wife had a hysterectomy and the rest of our intimate life was over. We are good friends and I would not want to do anything to hurt her. Nor am I looking for a bunch of one-night stands or younger hookers or sugar-babies. I could have all of that if I wanted it - I don't. I long for a relationship with a woman who looks forward to our meetings. Loves to kissed (very important) held, cuddled, wants foreplay as much as the actual intercourse, loves to be held and cuddled afterwards. To do that takes time and a relationship - knowing the others mind and body. If there is one thing I learned about a women and sex - it's mostly in her mind, her body is the trigger her mind is the pleasure. My god if I had known that as a young man.

My Ideal Person Is someone who enjoys life and enjoys people. Nice sense of humor about themselves and curious to explore new things. I

Perhaps someone who is in a committed relationship or recently divorced. Respectful of our private lives and able to see this as an "enhancement" to her life, something special just for "her", something to look forward to once or twice a month or more.

I enjoy making love to a woman, in every sense of the word. Kissing, cuddling, and foreplay - I think I could do that all day. They say some women have "penis-envy"-- well I have "orgasm-envy". I love the fact that women can recover so fast, their ability to build upon an orgasm or to have mini-orgasm.
"Post-play" is just as much fun for me as "Fore-play" (or making up words, for that matter). Do you know the feeling a man and a woman get after they made love; her spooning into him; feeling each others heart race; little beads of sweat just above her bottom at the small of her back, my fingers and penis covered with her love-juices.

That being said, sure I've been curious about being in a threesome. What male has not. Or just watching. We all have a little bit of voyeur in us - that curiosity to see others naked, sexual, masturbate, or doing intimate things in private.